Stress and Emotion Management 5 - Stress and Emotion Management

The goal of stress and emotion management is to reduce negative emotions in order to live a healthy, joyful, and happy life. Implementation of the method is through continuous learning and practice, observing and analyzing your negative emotions, practicing converting negative emotions into positive thinking, and pumping positive energy into your subconsciousness to correct conscious habit, or emotional response. The key is continuous learning and practicing.

Let's start with the negative emotion of anger, since anger is easier to perceive than other negative emotions. When you feel angry, immediately use the previously mentioned 1: 2 breathing method to ease your emotions; you may also do it afterwards if you regret being angry. At this time, we should immediately start to observe and analyze the negative conscious habit as much detail as possible:

1.       What happened and who made me angry?
2.       Why am I angry? What exactly didn’t I like or expected?
3.       What point do I hold on to against that just happened?
4.       Does being angry help?
5.       What are the harms of being angry?


For example, married couples often have different opinions on some small things, such as the location of placing things, hygiene standards, requirements for children, and opinions about spending money.  Conflicts arise because of different opinions, fighting for I being right and you being wrong, negative emotions emerging. For example, the wife’s requirements for their child's performance are stringent while the husband does not really care. The wife is always dissatisfied with this. She also gets angry and blames the husband for not being responsible. The wife can practice emotional management with the following analysis:
  1. What happened and who made me angry? My child's grades are not good, and my husband doesn't care.
  2. Why am I angry? Is it not as good as I expected? Because the child's grade is only B, and my husband's expectation is only C.
  3. What do I insist on? I insist on straight As.
  4. Does anger help? It doesn’t seem to be helpful. My child’s grades are the same, the atmosphere at home is tense, and the husband is hiding away.
  5. What is the harm of being angry? Being angry is really uncomfortable and hurting my body. It's useless and not worth it!

Carefully observe and analyze your negative conscious habit to figure out what point we are holding on to against that just happened. What point do we really attach to? Only after we have found the attachment that makes us fall into negative emotions can we proceed to the next step: converting negative emotions into positive thinking. (to be continued)

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